Attachment and Daily Life Experiences



Attachment and Daily Life Experiences Introduction Anxiety has been in existence since the beginnings of mankind. However, anxiety was not regarded as a serious disorder until in the past few decades. Anxiety is easily detected as it is associated with feelings (Brown &amp. Barlow, 1994). However, these feelings vary from one individual to another. Anxiety is common and may affect any person. Once one is affected by anxiety, one is subjected to a state of worry and fear (Andrasik, 2006). The general characteristic of anxiety is associated with the feeling of excessive thinking of the outcome of events eagerly waited for (Otto &amp. Smits, 2011). Persons with anxiety feel preoccupied, and always encounter problems in and attempt to get out of it. Persistent anxiety may bring some complications which later lead to more complex complications like negative emotions and depressed moods (Ainsworth, 2000). People with anxiety tend to worry about several issues at the same time. Characteristics associated with anxiety Although not all worries lead to anxiety, an exaggerated worrying accompanied with fear that exceeds six months becomes a serious problem. Actually, people who have serious anxiety disorder expect worst. Simpson, et al., (2010), noted that some of the worries that these people have include excessive worry about money, family problems, or stressing work. They find it to be difficult to relax, something that may lead to insomnia (Simpson, et al., 2010). The symptoms associated with anxiety intensify their worrying, and they may find it difficult to let off their concern. However, anxious behaviors vary from one individual to another. The situation worsens when people fail to accept that they are suffering from a disorder. They strongly oppose to seek medical attention (Andrasik, 2006). They believe that the cause of their condition is the only solution to their problem. People with anxiety suffer from low self-esteem (Otto &amp. Smits, 2011). They blame the things they worry about for causing low self-esteem. Just like other disorders, anxiety partially results from genetic make up or developmental vulnerabilities, and environmental exposure. Characteristics associated with avoidance Avoidance behaviors are common to people experiencing post distress disorder. This can be argued to be true because people tend to avoid consequences of things they are not sure about (Fonagy &amp. 2001). Most of avoidance behaviors are related to fear. Due to experiences relating to stress disorders, they tend to adopt avoidance behaviors to get them through each day (Andrasik, 2006). People with avoidance behaviors have the desire to be in relationships, but they lack necessary skills required for social interactions. In order to evade any conflicts emanating from these relationships, they withdraw from such relationships, and get into other relationships. Their behaviors are characterized by social withdrawal, distrustfulness. The first form of avoidance is total or true avoidance. An example of this is when people are afraid of public speaking, and they tend to avoid showing up in public places. Their fear is what people would talk about them concerning an issue that might have attracted public attention. Another form of avoidance is escape. When the mission to use avoidance fails, many people use escape behaviors (Andrasik, 2006). This is used to deal with issues related to feared situations. This may involve